Wednesday, July 9, 2008

My New Least Favorite Question (For the Moment)

From someone who just found out I'm pregnant: "So, you trying for that boy?"

Variations include asking me if I'm hoping for a boy or if my husband is hoping for a boy, since we have two girls.

What I say: "We were always planning on having three or more children" or "We love our girls and another girl would be great" or "We've always wanted both boys and girls so a boy or girl would be super."

What evil Smiller wants to say, but doesn't: "Yes, we were disappointed when the other ones weren't boys. We'll get an ultrasound with this one and, if it is another girl, go ahead and have an abortion."

Seriously, does everyone in the whole world (besides you, dear reader) think that the only reason to stray past the two child barrier is for gender reasons? And would I be getting this much concern the other way--if I had two boys and no girls?

I know, I know. I'm sure it is just something to say, well-meaning people, blah blah blah. It doesn't get them thrown off my Christmas card list, just earns them an internal eyebrow raise from me.

By the way, this replaces my last least favorite question which was "Is she a good baby?" I ended up always answering that one with, "Well, she hasn't robbed a Circle K yet so we think there is hope." Yes, there is a snarky streak in me, I confess. :D


Suzanne said...

Okay, #1: My friend Shelli had this problem with each of her last two kids (she has four boys ages almost 2 through just turned 6). So I don't think it would be any different for you if you had boys instead of girls first.
#2: I LOVE your answer to the "good baby" question, which I am [of course] getting all the time now. Mind if I use it?

Skerrib said...

You know, it IS a really dumb question, isn't it. Both of them, come to think of it--the gender one and the good baby one.

My baby is terrible. He cries when he's upset and it's terribly inconvenient to me. Bad baby!